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I had an epiphany regarding recent cross-dimensional antics (see ‘Parallel Dimension’). If I had crossed over why would my blog still record things as I remember them? That leaves only one possibility: She’s from the parallel dimension or alternate timeline!
Moving on…
Recent posts have received some interesting feedback…
“Don’t you think your Blog is a little too private for such a public place?”
Probably. But here’s the thing, if I can’t talk about it with her how else am I to get a reality check, and besides it’s a pain in the ass having to tell the same story over and over. Back in high school when faced with a problem I would write exactly what I was feeling, without censorship, down and share it with my friends and I would get feedback that helped and if nothing else I was being emotionally honest - back then we called it ‘Documentation’. What it basically boils down to in this situation is that I need to feel as if I am making some kind of progress: getting a reality check, making sure I’m not out of line, refining my ideas/thoughts/feelings, etc. However you do make a good point and I have since removed one overly personal comment from my previous post.
“It is strange that she’s talking to your best friend”
I investigated this, turns out she wanted to know if he’d be in town when she took the UK trio to visit despite me already having told her he wouldn’t be. So now the questions become why did she ask if she already knew the answer and was she planning on taking the UK trio to visit my best friend without me? And if so, why?
“You should make a Pros and Cons list”
Pros
-Companionship
-Watch
-Fun Activities (Cultus, Bowling, etc.)
-Not Lonely
-Physical Intimacy
-Easier Argument
Cons
-No Self Respect
-Loss Of Respect Of My Friends
-Disrespect
-Frustrated
-Lack Of Clarity/Feedback
-Future Arguments
How say you?
“Both of you have valid complaints”
True but I hardly think a lack of PDAs and phone calls is on par with disrespect, they’re on completely different levels. Plus I’ve been working on the things she’s complained about, by and large it seems she’s ignoring my concerns.
“I do kinda like her, except ‘I’m a bitch’ her. She sounds scary.”
This comment came from someone very picky. I was very surprised because frankly before this comment I thought he didn’t like her and thought I could do better.
“And like your blog says, you can’t be alone”
Whoa, hold on there. It’s not that I CAN’T be alone, it’s that I prefer not to be. I’m not Jerry Maquire over here. There are some things more important than companionship (like, if I may continue to flog the dead horse, respect).
“I don’t think you would suffer from abandonment issues though”
Agreed. I was quoting someone else when I said that.
“Yeah, I like her. She’s a little different from any of the other girls you’ve had before, but I don’t not like her”
Interesting, I would really like to know what sets her apart. Before stuff like this I would have expected the answer to be because she was the nicest - boat’s sailed on that one I think.
“I would even go as far as saying that I would hang out with her in a social setting”
Um, is this your way of saying if we break up you want her number? If memory serves you said she wasn’t attractive enough for you to sleep with her…
“I’m suggesting that you make her realize that things are not alright and she either sits down, talks about it, and makes them right or it’s over. Basically, give her an ultimatum.”
Ooooooooooh, that’s good. How about ‘I feel like I’m being disrespected, taken for granted, and my feelings are being ignored. I have one foot out the door, can you give me a reason to stay?’?
(in reference to the previous piece of viewer mail) “Would he want to do the same were he in your situation?”
Well Reader, what do you say to that?
“Respect is something that can be worked on, if you still like her. Do you still like her or would you just be keeping her around for the sex? Or just because it feels safe?”
Well it isn’t the sex…
As for still liking her it’s difficult to really be able to answer honestly and know your own feelings when you’re blinded by the rage and indignation of being treated like crap.
As for feeling safe I’ll admit that’s one of the perks - however her constantly commenting about other people she wants (hockey players, firefighters, lead singers of rock bands, actors…the list goes on) and several people constantly suggesting she get back with her ex who travels from another continent to see her and who she recently announced she would go visit when I get busy with work this summer kind of takes the luster off the ’safety’ factor.
“Dump the mother f*ck*r already”
You may have a point but I think she should be afforded a chance to explain herself first.
Thank you everyone for your comments, please keep them coming! 
