Fallout
Well I feel like crap. I know it wasn’t what she wanted to hear. All I did was tell the truth and she took it well but nevertheless this stuff is never easy. I hate disappointing people but lying is hardly a viable alternative. It would be easier if I was still mad I suppose, but when you’re angry it’s hard to be fair and rational but when the time comes to give less-than-good news a little righteous indignation would make the whole process a little easier to swallow, if virtually impossible to do properly.
Let’s open this to the floor…
“I like the blog…something very courageous about laying it all out like that”
Well at least there’s some nobility in what I do…
“I am pleased that you are considering giving her a chance, even if it’s to be friends to begin with. I’ve always been a firm believer that everyone deserves a second chance.”
Yea, me too. There are a few things that cross that line but I don’t believe she has done those particular things.
“It would be hard to trust someone again, after they’ve broken that trust. As they say, “Fool me once, shame on you; Fool me twice, shame on me”. Just try not to use power over her coming to you by misusing her guilt.”
So don’t ask for the watch is what you’re saying?
“The ball is in your court, yet you still don’t know exactly why she wants you back, and therefore, you will always be thinking of whether or not she’s thinking of doing it again”
Yea, ball’s bounced back into her court for now though. Stupid ball, I didn’t want to play with it anyways.
“I’ve always liked her, and had hoped you both were going to become permanent, but, given the scenario here, maybe she’s just going through a really tough confusing time in her life.”
It’s not that I don’t have sympathy for what she’s going through, I’m just tired of getting trampled all over with the excuse of ’she’s inexperienced’, ’she’s younger’, or ’she’s going through a lot of stuff right now’ completely invalidating my suffering. I’m tired of it. I treat everyone like equals but when I’m treated like crap suddenly I’m not being understanding enough. I’m tired of it.
Y’all seem to be flip-flopping a bit here. One minute you’re all ‘don’t trust her, she’s playing games, get out now’ and the next you’re all ‘I really liked her, I thought you’d be together forever, I’m glad you’re giving her a second chance’. Seems like some of your opinions change with the tides. Well lucky for me I made this decision by myself.
Not that I don’t appreciate the input but seriously, some of you are either pussy-footing around or just not telling the whole story. Don’t hedge your bets, just tell me the whole story and let the like chips fall where they may - it’s more honest. Even when we were together I don’t care if you say you dislike my girlfriend, I’m not going to get angry or behave any differently. I just hate having to guess. No more guessing games for awhile, I mean it. I’ve had my fair share for quite a while. Just say what you mean.
Getting back to her for a moment…after stating my position last night she started to tell me some of what’s been going on. I feel bad for her, assuming it’s true, but seriously, when you’re facing a difficult time, emotionally and legally, why would you push someone away who cares about you? Why would you deny yourself their support? That sh*t’s messed up, yo.
